Name the risks clearly
- Copying (screenshot, forwarding, cloud backup).
- Keeping the image after a breakup or conflict.
- Accidental leak (unlocked phone, visible notification).
- Non-consensual distribution, illegal, and never “your fault”.
This isn’t about banning sharing between consenting adults, it’s about deciding with open eyes.
Consent: more than an “ok” to send
Solid consent covers at least: who receives it, for how long, whether screenshots / forwarding are forbidden, and how to request revocation. Yes to one photo isn’t yes to a series; yes today isn’t yes tomorrow.
Good practices before sending
- Avoid faces or highly identifying details if they aren’t needed.
- Prefer a private channel and locked phones on both sides.
- Write the rules (even in two messages) instead of assuming them.
- Never share under pressure, blackmail or emotional urgency.
Revocation and control
Ask for deletion when you change your mind, and prefer tools that make revocation effective. Amoris Secret is built for private sharing with control; the security and privacy pages explain the model. Pair that with phone basics (see our guide on protecting intimate photos).
If an image spreads without consent
Document it, request removal from platforms, and contact local help services. You don’t have to handle non-consensual distribution alone.
Four questions before sending
- Receiving: “Would you like this kind of image now?”
- Keeping: “May it stay on your device, and for how long?”
- Access: “Who else could see your screen, gallery or backups?”
- Deletion: “How will you confirm deletion if I ask?”
Permission to receive never includes showing, forwarding, posting or using an image elsewhere. A breakup does not change that. Everyone depicted must be an adult and agree to both capture and every intended use.
If content is shared: an action plan
- Do not meet blackmail demands, pay or send more content.
- Preserve useful evidence: messages, usernames, URLs, dates and post screenshots.
- Report the content to the platform and request removal of it and known copies.
- Secure accounts with unique passwords, two-factor authentication and revoked sessions.
- Contact local law enforcement or a specialist image-based abuse service.
Do not repost the image as proof or forward it to friends. Keep evidence in restricted storage. Image-based abuse also includes threats and manipulated or AI-generated intimate images.
What technical revocation can - and cannot - do
Revocation may block access inside a service, but cannot guarantee deletion of screenshots, backups or photos taken with another device. Treat it as a useful control layer, not universal erasure. Add the steps in our guide to protecting intimate photos on a phone.
Frequently asked questions
Does taking a photo mean agreeing to share it? No. Consent to capture and consent to distribute are separate.
What about threats to share? Stop contact, keep evidence, secure accounts and seek help; do not pay.